"To live without love is not to have lived at all"
I know someone once said this to me but I can't recall who. The truth to this saying baffled me a lot as it seemed rather harsh. But then again, upon reflection, I realized that the word love isn't as limited as I imagined it to be. Love is universal. It comes in the form of admiration, care, affection and of course the most commonly discussed, attraction. To me love spells out a little more. It encompasses devotion to a large extent as well. Apart from that, it spells support, trust and sacrifice. I'm not imposing my perception of love onto anyone and I'm a firm believer of the saying, to each his own. But to me, this is of vital importance. The first question I normally pose to potential suitors is, how can you love me if you don't even know me?
I don't at all believe in love at first sight. Neither do I believe that love is subject to the notion that it never alters, never fades and never dies out. The love that remains undying and unchanging is perhaps nothing more than a fairytale notion that most people love to invest faith in as it provides them with the security blanket that love will be their ultimate companion till their end of days. Don't get me wrong, this is neither a skeptical nor is it a cynical perspective. It is in fact, the harsh realm of reality. Every girl has this dream of her prince in shining armor sweeping her off her feet and riding off with her into the sunset of eternal bliss, and trust me when I say this, so did I.
Is it wrong to have such naive dreams? Is it wrong to have such high expectations? Perhaps. Perhaps not. Speaking from experience, if you tend to live in this dream, prepare to have your heart shattered into a billion little pieces. Some people are capable of picking up these pieces and gluing them back together, some take longer than others at the process and some utterly fail as it isn't as simple as some may think. But one thing remains constant across the board, however efficient and capable a person is, the consequences of that little aftermath, never ultimately leaves you. The cracks and lines formed never really quite disappear and that is something we will have to live with. Painful as it maybe, it is the bitter truth.
Now don't get me wrong. I have denounced love forever. Love is and always will be a beautiful thing. But sometimes, love calls for the ultimate sacrifice. It calls for the freeing of that love itself. Is that even possible? Yes. To hold on to love that is in fact dying or dead is to hold on to pain that we ourselves inflict upon our own hearts. The inability to move on. I once told myself that if I truly loved someone then I would be ready to make the ultimate sacrifice if circumstances called for it. I would be able to let go if it meant his happiness in return. I recited this to myself everytime I felt fear and insecurities creeping up behind me. Never once did I think I would eventually have to make that call. And I did. Harder than I ever thought it would be and more painful than I ever imagined.
But truly, it all boils down to a single question. Did I love the person enough to do so? Honestly, I don't know. But I do know this. I love many people in my life enough to put them before me and this is one such person. So yes. As hard and painful as it may be. I guess the time has come for me to start letting go. I know its hard but remembering the fact that I have a number of beautiful souls behind me, guiding me, encouraging me and keeping me grounded does in fact help quite a lot.
The beauty of love is that even when you lose one part of it, it never entirely leaves you. It comes in the form of your dearest ones and the pain helps you hold on and remember those that truly are by your side. The wonders that love give us are immense and never to be taken for granted. And for that reason alone, I think love is indeed the greatest gift we can give anyone.
I know someone once said this to me but I can't recall who. The truth to this saying baffled me a lot as it seemed rather harsh. But then again, upon reflection, I realized that the word love isn't as limited as I imagined it to be. Love is universal. It comes in the form of admiration, care, affection and of course the most commonly discussed, attraction. To me love spells out a little more. It encompasses devotion to a large extent as well. Apart from that, it spells support, trust and sacrifice. I'm not imposing my perception of love onto anyone and I'm a firm believer of the saying, to each his own. But to me, this is of vital importance. The first question I normally pose to potential suitors is, how can you love me if you don't even know me?
I don't at all believe in love at first sight. Neither do I believe that love is subject to the notion that it never alters, never fades and never dies out. The love that remains undying and unchanging is perhaps nothing more than a fairytale notion that most people love to invest faith in as it provides them with the security blanket that love will be their ultimate companion till their end of days. Don't get me wrong, this is neither a skeptical nor is it a cynical perspective. It is in fact, the harsh realm of reality. Every girl has this dream of her prince in shining armor sweeping her off her feet and riding off with her into the sunset of eternal bliss, and trust me when I say this, so did I.
Is it wrong to have such naive dreams? Is it wrong to have such high expectations? Perhaps. Perhaps not. Speaking from experience, if you tend to live in this dream, prepare to have your heart shattered into a billion little pieces. Some people are capable of picking up these pieces and gluing them back together, some take longer than others at the process and some utterly fail as it isn't as simple as some may think. But one thing remains constant across the board, however efficient and capable a person is, the consequences of that little aftermath, never ultimately leaves you. The cracks and lines formed never really quite disappear and that is something we will have to live with. Painful as it maybe, it is the bitter truth.
Now don't get me wrong. I have denounced love forever. Love is and always will be a beautiful thing. But sometimes, love calls for the ultimate sacrifice. It calls for the freeing of that love itself. Is that even possible? Yes. To hold on to love that is in fact dying or dead is to hold on to pain that we ourselves inflict upon our own hearts. The inability to move on. I once told myself that if I truly loved someone then I would be ready to make the ultimate sacrifice if circumstances called for it. I would be able to let go if it meant his happiness in return. I recited this to myself everytime I felt fear and insecurities creeping up behind me. Never once did I think I would eventually have to make that call. And I did. Harder than I ever thought it would be and more painful than I ever imagined.
But truly, it all boils down to a single question. Did I love the person enough to do so? Honestly, I don't know. But I do know this. I love many people in my life enough to put them before me and this is one such person. So yes. As hard and painful as it may be. I guess the time has come for me to start letting go. I know its hard but remembering the fact that I have a number of beautiful souls behind me, guiding me, encouraging me and keeping me grounded does in fact help quite a lot.
The beauty of love is that even when you lose one part of it, it never entirely leaves you. It comes in the form of your dearest ones and the pain helps you hold on and remember those that truly are by your side. The wonders that love give us are immense and never to be taken for granted. And for that reason alone, I think love is indeed the greatest gift we can give anyone.
*hugs*
I love you darling dee =)
one day dee, one day your time will come. don't stop believing. if I stopped believing, i wouldn't have met my baby now. one day you will find someone who loves you as much as he loves me.
Thankz you adie! I love you sooooo much! To be frank I don't mind not finding anyone coz I feel so loved already!!!
*hugz back!*
I know I know! I'm your dearest one right!!!! XD
So the perasaan! :P