Dee
"I disapprove of what you say, but I will defend your right to say it anyway". Friends.
Loyalty, sincerity, compassion, exuberance and so many more criteria make up the ideal companion at any given time, a friend. I always believed that the basis to every existing relationship would have to be the combined efforts of both trust and loyalty. I chose the word loyalty instead of devotion as I found that devotion was a word that was too strong. Devotion called for support without question but that goes against the very principle of individuation. How is anyone supposed to conform to something without the slightest ounce of intrigue or even curiosity? Is a friend true when they require you to stand by their side even when you feel that what you are backing goes against the very nature of your beliefs?
How does friendship call for all this? Well, to me friendship is something that brings out the best in people. It brings out the differences in individuals and accentuates these deviations for every person is distinctive in their own natural way and it is more than wrong to expect them to compel to emotional bonds by suppresing their true individuality and most importantly, their conscience and conceptions. Friendship has been the bond that has held its respect true to my heart all this while. It requires the firm and unbinding commitment that we bestow upon it and never has demanded for more than we are able to give. This is quite the contrary with other relationships, including romantically insinuating ones.
But then again, the main question at hand would be what is the perfect friendship then? A person who’s always there to share your ups and downs? A person who knows your troubled by the mere sound of your voice or? A person who senses that you need them even without the slightest indication that you had thrown in their direction? I am more grateful than proud to say that I have friends such as these and never have I once felt like I was alone thanks to their constant care and reassurance. Never was I alone, with their continuous and unwavering faith and guidance. Everytime I shed a tear, every second that I was even remotely inflicted with pain, they were right there by my side to carress and soothe my injured self-esteem. But right there at that very moment I had found individuals who had held me close to their hearts and cared deeply for not only my well-being but most importantly my sanity and clarity of emotions.
I have no displeasure in saying that there have been people that surround me with the notion of being "friends" but then again all that they had wanted is an oppotunity to use me in their own favor. Well, being used isn’t something new to me but then again I had consoled myself that I had better and more worthy friends that I could always rely on. Friends that cared about me because they loved me as the individual that they had come to know and that they had seen grow over the years. One thing that I have realized with unbinding relationships especially ones that are bound by emotion but relent of all other forms of commitment, we find most of our friends drifting through time and space over the years leaving only bits of memoirs and reminiscence to filled the void in which their presence has left. It is truly difficult to watch them leave as you find a part of yourself torn apart as they leave, but then again that leaves more space for more friends.
The most beautiful miracles that I have found in life are the friends that I have both lost and earned throughout my life. I can’t even imagine a second without the very beings that so unselfishly and endearingly bestowed their time, thought and care for me. They are the family that I never had and they are the blessings that God chose to bless me with. No matter where they are, no matter what they do, no matter what happens through the course of time, all they have to do is think of me when they needed someone by their side, I will always be there. All it takes is a single thought in my direction and I will be there. A friend indeed is a friend there in need or otherwise too.
This is a little something that I feel I owe all the wonderful people that have so patiently and lovingly graced my life. These people have been more than wonderful in allowing me the chance to glimpse through their own lives. I love you guys and all that you have done for me. Your mere presence in my life has been the core of my existence and there is nothing more that I can say or do to tell you how much you guys mean the world to me.
1) The prefect board n PBSM n Eng Society n Recycling Campaign n every other association I had been a part of. (2001-2005)
2) SMKSJ and SKSSJ ( for your wonderful years of education)
3) Inti College Subang - for the wonderful year that I had,it was the best year of my life.
4) All the juniors that I have left behind to carry on our legacy. Our continous love and support will always be yours.
5) Last but not least, to my truest friends that I have come to know throughout my life:-
Sarah- my conscience
Naji- my fun factor
Joshi- my darling junior
Rakesh- a friend indeed
Yvonne- the adorable sweet girl
JP- my fav and darling "penolong"
Kiran- the voice of my intellectual reason
Jason- the sweetest guy i know
Syamin and Sara- class wud never have been the same without u guys
and for the people that i had not mentioned, my apologies but rest assured that u will forever hold a place on my heart….
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Tuesday, April 10, 2007

The Miracles of Life


"I disapprove of what you say, but I will defend your right to say it anyway". Friends.
Loyalty, sincerity, compassion, exuberance and so many more criteria make up the ideal companion at any given time, a friend. I always believed that the basis to every existing relationship would have to be the combined efforts of both trust and loyalty. I chose the word loyalty instead of devotion as I found that devotion was a word that was too strong. Devotion called for support without question but that goes against the very principle of individuation. How is anyone supposed to conform to something without the slightest ounce of intrigue or even curiosity? Is a friend true when they require you to stand by their side even when you feel that what you are backing goes against the very nature of your beliefs?
How does friendship call for all this? Well, to me friendship is something that brings out the best in people. It brings out the differences in individuals and accentuates these deviations for every person is distinctive in their own natural way and it is more than wrong to expect them to compel to emotional bonds by suppresing their true individuality and most importantly, their conscience and conceptions. Friendship has been the bond that has held its respect true to my heart all this while. It requires the firm and unbinding commitment that we bestow upon it and never has demanded for more than we are able to give. This is quite the contrary with other relationships, including romantically insinuating ones.
But then again, the main question at hand would be what is the perfect friendship then? A person who’s always there to share your ups and downs? A person who knows your troubled by the mere sound of your voice or? A person who senses that you need them even without the slightest indication that you had thrown in their direction? I am more grateful than proud to say that I have friends such as these and never have I once felt like I was alone thanks to their constant care and reassurance. Never was I alone, with their continuous and unwavering faith and guidance. Everytime I shed a tear, every second that I was even remotely inflicted with pain, they were right there by my side to carress and soothe my injured self-esteem. But right there at that very moment I had found individuals who had held me close to their hearts and cared deeply for not only my well-being but most importantly my sanity and clarity of emotions.
I have no displeasure in saying that there have been people that surround me with the notion of being "friends" but then again all that they had wanted is an oppotunity to use me in their own favor. Well, being used isn’t something new to me but then again I had consoled myself that I had better and more worthy friends that I could always rely on. Friends that cared about me because they loved me as the individual that they had come to know and that they had seen grow over the years. One thing that I have realized with unbinding relationships especially ones that are bound by emotion but relent of all other forms of commitment, we find most of our friends drifting through time and space over the years leaving only bits of memoirs and reminiscence to filled the void in which their presence has left. It is truly difficult to watch them leave as you find a part of yourself torn apart as they leave, but then again that leaves more space for more friends.
The most beautiful miracles that I have found in life are the friends that I have both lost and earned throughout my life. I can’t even imagine a second without the very beings that so unselfishly and endearingly bestowed their time, thought and care for me. They are the family that I never had and they are the blessings that God chose to bless me with. No matter where they are, no matter what they do, no matter what happens through the course of time, all they have to do is think of me when they needed someone by their side, I will always be there. All it takes is a single thought in my direction and I will be there. A friend indeed is a friend there in need or otherwise too.
This is a little something that I feel I owe all the wonderful people that have so patiently and lovingly graced my life. These people have been more than wonderful in allowing me the chance to glimpse through their own lives. I love you guys and all that you have done for me. Your mere presence in my life has been the core of my existence and there is nothing more that I can say or do to tell you how much you guys mean the world to me.
1) The prefect board n PBSM n Eng Society n Recycling Campaign n every other association I had been a part of. (2001-2005)
2) SMKSJ and SKSSJ ( for your wonderful years of education)
3) Inti College Subang - for the wonderful year that I had,it was the best year of my life.
4) All the juniors that I have left behind to carry on our legacy. Our continous love and support will always be yours.
5) Last but not least, to my truest friends that I have come to know throughout my life:-
Sarah- my conscience
Naji- my fun factor
Joshi- my darling junior
Rakesh- a friend indeed
Yvonne- the adorable sweet girl
JP- my fav and darling "penolong"
Kiran- the voice of my intellectual reason
Jason- the sweetest guy i know
Syamin and Sara- class wud never have been the same without u guys
and for the people that i had not mentioned, my apologies but rest assured that u will forever hold a place on my heart….

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